I was always following, listening and hearing the message. I can’t say always, because I didn’t know who she was until maybe the last two to three years. Her voice is not foreign to me. Her messages were only whispers before. Now, I am a fucking cheetah.
Glennon Doyle’s book Untamed hit me upside the head beginning March 11th, 2020, at her book tour evening at the Tennessee Performing Arts Center. This is also the day before the Covid-19 pandemic took control of my work, my family and our lives. I sat in a crowded theater right next to my best friend. I hugged people, shook hands with people, and didn’t wear a mask. I was out of the house at night, in public. Seems like it was so long ago.
Along with an evening of listening to Glennon and her wife Abby Wambach, everyone attending got a copy of the book.I began reading it the next day. Wow! Through this time, I became an even more devoted participant in her Instagram posts and stories. As time has passed, we have social distanced, school was canceled, and we have sheltered in place. For a few weeks now, Glennon has hosted “Morning Meeting Times.” In her latest, she talks about Deathbed Regrets, specifically using the example of writing and telling your story to others through that medium. With ears perked, I heard her speak directly to me.
This is what has led to this post. A practice that I am not good at and failed too many times to count. But, here I am again. Writing to you, whoever you are. For this new practice, her success came from moving away from the self critique. At her start, she meddled and picked apart so many posts that nothing was ever completed. Shocking! I counted in my saved documents and I have nine other potential entries that I have never finished. I questioned my abilities, and to my own detriment, didn’t trust myself. I am attempting with this entry her practice of writing for one hour a day. Posting whatever is there at the end of the hour. It will be what it will be.
It is possible that I may be able to do this daily. I hope so. I also plan to take out the links and media. This took so much time away from my writing. So, what do I want to write about?
My last post “I Am Mostly Afraid of Bubba”, I was at the height of anxiety concerning Covid-19. With the help of my medical provider and good friends, I have adapted to the process of living, working and being in a family during a pandemic. However successful I may feel about this, I still do not see humanity handling our new normal well at all. Only yesterday, I found myself in a ‘Jay-Z walk it off’ moment after being on a news site for less than five minutes. Today, my soul felt tired. My brain hurt. It’s like the air was being slowly let out of me. During some overdue time in nature, a close friend texted me. One thing about having anxiety and being in a pandemic, if you ask me how I am doing, I am likely to really tell you. You have been warned. I explained how I felt yesterday and today. She shared that she hadn’t been her best self either recently. We both do not have a reason to feel this way. That’s what it feels like to be a person with a large amount of empathy as well as emotional intelligence. It is almost as if I can take on the feelings of others by only breathing. It is like I feel a sense of uneasiness and it comes from nowhere. The most difficult part is that I do not know where the suffering is coming from so I can do nothing to alleviate the suffering. Until I find the person or people suffering, I have to hold it for them.
My current anxiety is how I am handling my communities’ rush to “get back to normal.” I am torn. I want businesses to open and my friends who are at home be able to return to work. But, I know this will lead to illness. Hopefully not a lot of this virus will be passed to others, but it is inevitable. I do have hope that people will practice the methods that have helped us flatten the curve. This is how I can summarize getting back to normal.
Buffalo Vs Cow
“When cows sense there is a storm coming from the west, they will run east, away from the storm. As we all know, cows are not the fastest animals in the kingdom and so the storms eventually catch up to the cows while they are still running east. The cows actually end up running WITH the storm and inevitably prolong the agony and pain of being in the storm. Buffalo’s have a very different response to storms. They wait for the storm to crest over the Rocky Mountains and then they run west INTO the storm. By running towards the storm they run thru it and minimize the time they have to deal with the storm.”-Ryan Jenkins
I guess we will be buffalo’s.
I want to close with this:
This time is difficult for everyone. No matter what their feelings are at this time, how our government has handled it or how people are responding. The amount of stress is overwhelming for all people. The age, sex, class, religion, all the demographics do not determine how the person is coping. The Covid-19 pandemic has impacted all people. We should respond to everyone as if they are experiencing some level of grief. Unless you are from the Westboro Baptist Church, you wouldn’t shout unkindness to people who are experiencing the death of a loved one. You shouldn’t do that during this time. We all need to listen more and talk less. “Smile and wave boys, smile and wave.”-Madagascar
I have about 15 minutes left in the hour. That will give me time to pick an image and edit.
I did it!
Please take care of yourself,
Sally