So he just started showing up. One Friday night we were out and all of the sudden my friend had this guy with her. Lots of people were around that night, but in a few minutes I realized I was the third wheel. I politely mingled the rest of the evening. Happy to do it. This gal deserved it. The following Wednesday…there he is again, in a nice little lady sandwich. My friend on one side and another girl on the other. The guy and the other girl are distracted, so I ask…”What’s up with Bob?” She explains that he’s a really nice guy, but she thinks the other girl (the one sitting next to him.) likes him too. “They’ve known each other for years”, she says. I ask, “Have they ever dated?” She explains, “No, I don’t think she’s gone out with him.” “Girl, she’s had her chance! Your turn, lady! GO WIN!”
“Are you winning?” I will ask when I see her, text her, ask other people to ask her who don’t know what they are asking. I just checked, she still is. When you train for the big game, the big event, you know that it’s all about who has been training the hardest and longest. Who has the better skills. That’s the one who wins…who can hang in the there longest. My coach says, “Make the last one, your best one!” No one gets out there to lose, you get out there to win!
A philosophy I am learning about from Neil Strauss‘ The Game, Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists
“The strong live off the weak, and the clever live off the strong.”
“In life, people tend to wait for good things to come to them. And by waiting, they miss out. Usually, what you wish for doesn’t fall in your lap; it falls somewhere nearby, and you have to recognize it, stand up, and put in the time and work it takes to get to it. This isn’t because the universe is cruel. It’s because the universe is smart. It has its own cat-string theory and knows we don’t appreciate things that fall into our laps.”
I am a lover of quotes, so here are a few to support my philosophy.
“Win as if you were used to it, lose as if you enjoyed it for a change.” Vince Lombardi
No one wins more than Samantha from Sex and the City. Even when she loses, she wins. That’s the philosophy I am looking for. And fabulous on top of it! Yes, please! Disclaimer: If you offend easily….watch this:
That was fun, but let’s get real. I have heard and mentioned previously, “it’ll happen when you aren’t looking for it.” But lately, I’ve noticed I have been winning but I didn’t realize it. Watching my friend “win” and being a part of it; that’s “winning.”
How lucky am I to always have a tremendously fun and entertaining social life. I could have invited guys to join me, but I didn’t. I wanted to hang out with my friends with no pressure. “Winning” Spending the day with my “lil ladies” and meeting up with friends…”Winning!” Sunday Funday for 12 hours with some of the best people-exhausted, but still “winning.”
I get date proposals quite a bit. My practice prior was to accept as many as time allowed. This was EXHAUSTING! About 3 weeks ago, I stopped. Summer was coming to an end, and I really didn’t want to waste all my good outfits on “space fillers” and “time wasters”. I mean, that’s all they were becoming.
“Winning” is control. Telling a guy no…I would rather have drinks with those girls than with you. That’s what I should have done on a recent date. He was a complete douche-I’m not kidding or using colorful language…google it. Cute golfer named “Bo” will pop up I am sure. “Bo” tells the waitress, “yea, you can just put her drinks with mine…” Excuse me pretty boy, but this may be why you are still single. I don’t need you to buy my drinks, but I did just give you an hour of my life I will never get back and wasted this dress on you. “Time waster/space filler.” When “Grace”, shows up at the same bar you are meeting your date and all you want to do is sit with her…”space filler/time waster” for sure.
I am not going to lie, I was looking for a repeat of last summer. Fun, yes. But I think I deserve more than fun…I deserve to win!
So, sorry guys, but this new way, the way I am winning is more fulfilling than you have been…but I am always willing to see one try to prove me wrong!