“There’s no way that could have ever happened!” Or what if you don’t remember it? What if it’s completely different then you imagined and the pure thought of it was complete disbelief?
I recently read What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty. Yes, I have also read Big Little Lies and The Husband’s Secret. All great and I highly recommend. But,truly I tell you, What Alice Forgot really hit me and captivated my thoughts for the two days it took me to read it. Dont think for a minute I am “one of those readers.” I was at the beach on a girls trip.
No Spoilers! I will explain no more than what you can find out in the description. So guess what? Alice forgot! Following a gym accident, she woke up and had forgotten the last 10 years. Forgot the birth of three children, the death of a friend; that she didn’t realize she was friends with and to top it off, she has a new boyfriend because she’s in the middle of a divorce. The last she recalls is being in love with her husband, buying a fixer upper and being pregnant for the first time!
So here I go…what if I still thought I loved my ex husband? What if I had never met one of my children? That’s a lot! That’s a whole, whole, helluva a lot to process!
- The birth of my youngest daughter. (What daughter? I just had a miscarriage, last I recall.)
- The many miscarriages of many friends.
- My divorce
- My oldest daughters three cranial facial surgeries.
- The death of my grandmother
- The death of my uncle
- My brother’s marriage
- The addition of wonderful friends to a group of longtime friends
- The loss of friendships and gaining a friendemy.
- What is a wife in law and why do I have one?
- What’s a podcast and who is Ross?
- Bro what? I have Bromances?
- Changing jobs
- Moving four times
- Traveling to Europe
- My obsession and multiple trips to Orange Beach Alabama.
- I have a boyfriend?
- What is Tinder, Plenty of Fish, Match
- Who are all these ex boyfriends
- What is Sex and the Motherhood.
- What do you mean there is no more MySpace?
As I list these things, to me-it’s a lifetime of experiences but it’s only a third or so of what I’ve experienced so far. Which leads me to the real “aha” moment. Would 10 year ago Sally, like current Sally? I don’t know. Really, it’s hard to imagine even if myself 10 years ago would even be friends with me, now.
Then there are the things have happened that are unimaginable to 10 year ago Sally. Here’s a bit of a truth bomb: If you think some of my “sex and the Motherhood” experiences were over the top, well…this is the edited version. Yes, you read that correctly. I have left out some major/minor details. Some things you have to keep between you and Jesus. So to be told I’ve done the things I’ve done and experienced what I’ve experienced, would be too much to take. But to manage my unfortunate choices, poor decisions and let’s just call it what it is, mistakes; I had a moment, several moments. The turning point, when I decided that my path will hold only actions that honor me and my daughters. If it doesn’t fit there, then I move on. Sally, 10 years ago probably thinks that sounds pretty deep, but she doesn’t have the foundation to understand the significance of it yet. She’ll be ok, I promise you that.
I can’t let my disappointments and struggles outweigh what I have accomplished and overcome. Just looking at the list above, the pictures and processing, I’m proud. I don’t know what the next 10 years have for me, but I hope I remember and honor every step.