There had been one or two before her. I didn’t realize she was going to change my life too.
In our dimple of the universe, most relationships involving step parents are extremely disfunctional. It was the expected and for me the anticipated reaction. Helping my assumption, was a difficult and dramatic co parenting relationship. It’s been nearly seven, no eight years since we turned the corner and started turning heads.
Urban Dictionary defines Wife In Law as “The relationship that exists between a divorced woman and her ex-husband’s new wife.” And that’s what we are, but we have grown beyond a relationship, it’s a friendship made of mutual respect and trust. When you put it all together that’s when you get “The Unit”. The Unit can really make people uncomfortable. So picture it, walking into a very crowded softball complex, me, my girls, my ex, the wife in law, her kids, their daughter, her ex, his wife, her kids too, then add the grandparents…there are up,to 4 sets of them…yep, lots of looks. And not everyone in the unit was in love with the idea at the start but our children, all children, deserve support and a peaceful,loving environment and our stance to be dedicated to doing so, we surpassed the concerns and eased into the comfort of it.
The spirit of summer of 2017 was set with a young professionals group started meeting in the dimple. My friend Ross, who I podcast with on Ask Me About explained our purpose was to be a group of people who could help eachother. With this spirit, that’s what she and I want to do. We want to share our story, hear your stories and help eachother along the way.
In the next few weeks, we will begin planning events for women like us. Single ladies in a coparenting, wife in law, situations. You can be in a good place, an in between place or a bad place. You could even be a solo wanting to know more about how to develop a wife in law situation. Maybe you’ve been through it and your wisdom can help. The point is, we want you to come.
We have the beginnings of a Facebook page at Wife In Laws. Follow us there and await our first event, August 20th is the beginning of this adventure.
What would happen if through these positive relationships, we created a community of supportive women with one common goal to celebrate our strengths, overcome our weaknesses and impact our families in a positive way? What if we changed your life in a good way? What if we became better friends, better moms, better patents? What if we had fun?